No matter how long a person has been married, going through a divorce can be a difficult process. It is especially difficult to deal with when children are involved. Minnesota co-parents may be interested in learning a few strategies to help make the co-parenting process easier.
Problems that led to the divorce can make communication between co-parents difficult. While it may be tempting to do so, using children as messengers is not in the children’s best interests and often leads to messages being relayed incorrectly. Learning to communicate in a respectful manner and directly is more beneficial. Using email or text messages can assist in keeping the relationship as peaceful as possible and will also document conversations.
Successfully co-parenting involves being unified when it comes to things like family rules, daily schedules and discipline methods. This will keep things as consistent as possible for children. Being united will lead to the children feeling safe and will cut down on stress that can lead to children not developing well as they get older.
Sharing important moments in the children’s lives can help co-parents deal with feeling like they are missing out. Doing something as simple as taking a picture of a child’s report card or a picture they painted can help co-parents cope with this challenge.
Being flexible and open with a parenting schedule can be beneficial. While each parent will work to hold up their end of the co-parenting schedule, agreeing to a change every now and then may allow the children to engage in activities they will enjoy. If no harm is done, cooperating is usually the best route to take.
When a court-ordered parenting schedule is not working out and co-parents cannot agree, the court may need to get involved. A person in this situation might wish to speak with an attorney. The attorney may be able to answer questions about adjusting custody or co-parenting schedules after a divorce.